With the number of foreclosures on the rise, it is inevitable to know of at least one person who has received a NOD (notice of default) and is in serious risk of foreclosure. I know of at least 2, one of which is less than 5 days from the courthouse steps. With guidelines tightening up, we have sometimes taken on the hat of grievance consular rather than lender/Realtor. My clients are first and foremost friends. After hearing all the obstacles and trials they have been through, even taken a few classes on it, here are a few nuggets to pass along to them. They are basic, but you would be amazed how many people don't know their options.
The first one is real important...THEY DON"T WANT YOUR HOUSE!!!!. Re-assure them that in this market, the last thing the bank wants is your home. They need to actually talk to the lender and see what they can work out. This takes time and numerous phone calls on hold, but sometimes it may be as little as 1 payment.
Have them talk to a Realtor who understands a short sale. Yes they loose the home, and they may still have a balance, but it will be much less damaging than a foreclosure. Refer back to option 1.
If none of this is working, bankruptcy (13) can prevent a foreclosure up to the time it is on the courthouse steps being sold. I have heard that if you have $1 million or more in assets, this is null, but anything is worth a try. Still damaging, but still better than a foreclosure. It is not an all inclusive list, but it's hope. For a family with children, sometimes that is all you need.
Finally, give them the knowledge that was given to Joe Dirt. Home is where you make it. Family is the most important thing, and at the end whatever kind of day you have had, don't forget that. They may be the only thing between you and permanent insanity.